Questions to Ask the Tarot Cards About Love

Tarot card readings can be fun and enlightening, and if you’re looking for answers about your love life, the cards may be able to tell you. Finding love can be a tricky and unpredictable process, so if you’re wanting a little bit of guidance, maybe it’s time to turn to the cards.

It’s important to know how you should go about asking the tarot cards questions about love. Formulating questions in an open-ended way is the best way to start. Start with “Why,” “Where,” “Which,” “What,” or “How” and you’ll probably automatically have an open ended question. 

Keeping questions open-ended will help you to get a more meaningful and useful reading from the cards. Most people also advise to avoid asking “Yes” or “No” questions — receiving such specific answers isn’t the goal of tarot. Rather, you want useful insights and spiritual guidance that will actually help you be in charge of your own life.  

Many people ask the cards about their love life when presented with the opportunity. It’s a common reading to receive, and along with getting some answers about where your love life is headed, you might also receive advice on how to proceed. Here are some questions to get you started. 

What parts of myself do I need to work on in order to have a balanced relationship?

It’s the age-old love advice — in order to love someone else, you have to love yourself first. Sometimes we’re not ready for love until we’ve worked on a little bit of self-improvement, but that can be a tricky process in itself. It can be difficult to know where to begin. The cards may be able to help you identify the parts of yourself that need a little TLC in order to be ready for a balanced, healthy relationship. 

What is the reason that I am blocking myself from new love entering my life? 

Sometimes, you feel like you’ve met the perfect person — but there’s just something missing. This could be a product of your inner self not allowing you to let new love in. So, why do we do this? Well, there’s no easy answer, and it’s different for everyone. But if you ask the cards, perhaps they can give you some insight into why you’re so hesitant to let someone in. 

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What is the most important lesson I need to learn from my break-up? 

Most of us have been through a break-up. And we know how messy they can be. At the time of the break-up, it can seem like the only lesson you learned was how much you loved the person and how sad you are that they’re gone. But each relationship can teach us something, good or bad, and if you’re having trouble identifying what that lesson is, the cards can help. 

What would be a good type of date to go on with my crush?

Deciding on what to do for a first date can be one of the worst parts about dating. There are so many options — minigolf, a walk in the park, or the classic dinner and a movie. But there could be a specific type of date that would benefit you and your potential partner in ways that only the cards can know. 

What are my strengths when it comes to relationships? 

As human beings, it can be easy to jump to self-criticism and to focus on our negative qualities. But an important part of being a good partner is knowing what you bring to the table — maybe you’re a great communicator, or you’re an empath who is attuned to your partner’s emotions. Identifying what this strength is, so that you can remind yourself in times of doubt that you’re good at it, can be a great benefit to your romantic life.

What does the universe want me to know about my love life?

Sometimes, asking broader questions can be helpful — you might get answers that you weren’t expecting. If there’s something specific that the universe wants you to know about your love life, the cards can help you figure that out. 

What is next for my love life? 

This is probably the question we all want to ask when presented with the opportunity. Whether you just got out of a relationship, or have been single for years and are ready for love, it can be tempting to know what’s coming next and how much longer you’ll have to wait. If the cards can help you with an answer to this question, then they certainly will.

What new activities/hobbies might lead me to my next love interest? 

Taking up new hobbies can be good for lots of reasons, but one of those reasons might be that perhaps you’ll meet someone new. If you’re feeling like you want to try something new, like a cooking or art class, maybe the cards can give you a little direction on what to try that could lead you to love. 

Why do I keep holding onto this relationship/crush?

It can be extremely hard to let go of our love interests, whether it be someone you are actually in a relationship with, or someone that you’re crushing on. If you’re finding it hard to let go, no matter how bad you might want to, it might be time to ask the cards for some insight. Hopefully, the answer will help you to understand why you’re holding on so tightly, and what you can do to begin to let go. 

What type of personality should I avoid in love and relationships? 

You’re not going to be compatible with everyone — if you were, finding love would be a whole lot easier. But if you’re finding that incompatibility is a recurring problem in your love life, maybe there’s a specific personality type you’re not aware that you need to avoid. Ask the cards for some guidance on what type of personality you should avoid to save yourself some time in the future. 

Where is this relationship headed? 

It’s a question that people usually dread asking their partners, but asking the cards might be a little easier. Whether you’re struggling to decide if the relationship is meant to last, or you’re desperately wanting it to be meant to last, some helpful guidance for the future is always welcomed.

What are the blockages in my relationship? 

Relationships aren’t supposed to be easy 100% of the time, and every couple goes through periods of tension and questioning. But if you believe the relationship is meant to last and you don’t want to throw in the towel, it might be time to put in a little work and figure out what could be blocking your relationship from flourishing.

How can I become more confident about finding love? 

The world of dating and finding love can be a scary place. You might find yourself cancelling before a first date because you’re too nervous, or ghosting someone because you’re afraid they don’t actually like you. Bringing out a little bit of confidence might give you the push you need to take the next step, and the cards may be able to help with that.

How can I better support my partner?

Relationships are a two-way street, and many of us know how it feels when your partner isn’t supporting you in the way they should be. It’s important to be aware of this, and if you feel like you haven’t been supporting your partner enough, or in the right ways, ask the cards. 

How can I attract my destined person?

You can’t force love out of thin air, but you can actively try to attract the person that you’re meant to be with. There are different ways for different people to attract love, and if there’s something specific that you should be doing to attract your person, let the cards tell you.

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Love is one of the driving forces of the world, which is why so many tarot card readings focus on it. Tarot can be overwhelming at first, with so many questions to ask and so much information to be obtained. These 15 questions will be a good starting point, and you’ll probably come up with your own as you go along. 

To truly benefit from a tarot card reading, it’s best to focus on yourself. Keep an open mind, and always keep the intention of your questions in mind. Tarot cards are about predicting the future. And if the cards tell you something you don’t want to hear, that’s okay too — you can take or leave whatever feels right.