Struggling to get pregnant? If you are coping with infertility, you might be feeling alienated and stressed. The price of treatments, the unpredictability of the outcome, and the different hormones and medications: all these elements can make this period one of the most challenging times of your life. Additionally, this period can put a strain on your relationship. However, it can also be an opportunity for you to strengthen your partnership.
Here are some tips on how to be there for your partner during this emotional roller coaster ride.
Yes, you need to be there for your partner. But sometimes, it helps to talk or vent to someone outside the relationship. It's a good idea for each partner to have one or two people they can confide in order to take some emotional pressure off of the other person. If you can't find the support you need from the people in your life, you could try looking into online support groups for people struggling with infertility.
When it comes to infertility, people don't always know the right thing to say. Decide as partners how much information you are going to share and you are going to share it with. Remember, it is your choice and no one needs to validate it.
Everybody copes with stress differently. Some people want to approach problems pragmatically, and immediately map out a game plan. Others want to take their time and just be able to vent to their family and friends. Make sure you are attuned to your partner's feelings during this time. Take turns listening and do your best to meet the other person's needs.
When you are undergoing fertility treatments, it may seem like the process is taking over your entire life. Remember to have fun and take a break now and again with your partner. It's also a good idea to take individual breaks as well.
Taking out the trash, washing dishes, going grocery shopping--even the simplest tasks might seem like a colossal stressors when you are dealing with fertility treatments. Surprise your partner by knocking some daily chores off their routine. Even eliminating one dry task from someone's to do list can be enough to alleviate their stress.
While this can be a stressful period in your life, it can also be a chance to cultivate your relationship with your partner. Your road to parenthood might be riddled with potholes but with a strong partnership, you'll get through it together.